Published on August 31st, 2012 | by djprophetic0
4 Reasons Why People Come Into Your Life
4 Reasons Why People Come Into Your Life
By:David D Simons
We all have friends, people we consider friends, and people we think that are our friends. How are we able to decipher who is in each category? How are we able to tell those who are genuine from those who are fake? It’s very simple. First, you have to identify the reason they are in your life. I am going to explain to you the four reasons that will help you identify the category in which your friends are. Before identifying the reasons why certain friends come in your life, you should read through these 4 reasons and ask yourself what type of friend are you in someone else’s life. Take a deep breath…..Exhale….. Now, lets take a in-depth look into the reasons people come into your life. 1. People that are there by association Have you ever said “Hey you, it’s good to see you…” to someone you saw at the grocery store? And then you walk off. You’re not alone- it’s natural to have a lot of these types of relationships. There are people that are just there for the sake of associating with you either because of your status, your popularity, your name, or just because you are part of an organization you together. This level of friendship does not have much depth or authenticity. This may be the type of person you say “hello” to because you had a class together, maybe they are a parent from your son’s/daughter’s school, maybe you’re in the same organization, or maybe they just like to tell people they know you. These relationships seldom provide much value. You can compare them to some of the friends you have on your Facebook page (You know good and well you don’t have 500 actual “friends” on Facebook. You could classify 399 as mere acquaintances). The truth is associations are people we just meet and happen to cross paths with. 2. People that are there for what you have. There are people that come into our lives simply because they want what we have or want to learn how to get what we have. Take for example the mentor/protégé relationship. Most commonly a protégé wants to gain a skill, a way of living, access, or knowledge from someone they desire to be like. This isn’t a bad thing, but we must understand that if that mentor was to lose the status or item that the protégé wanted, that protégé would no longer be there. There are also people that just want your counsel, or they just want somebody to listen to them, or they want to borrow items from you. These types of people usually call when they need something from you. If you can no longer provide what they need, they will find someone else to get it from. These people can be considered leeches because they drain you and sap your energy and resources, but rarely pour anything back into you. This level of friendship is higher than an association but not by much. 3. People that are there for a mutual interest These are the people you may share similar interests with- same fraternity, non-profit, church, political party, or even a fan of the same sports team. As soon as you decide you are no longer interested in that organization, these people will most likely leave your life. So don’t be deceived and think this person has your back and wants the best for you- truly, they want what is best for the vision of an organization or the shared interest. Think of it from this stance, Joe and Mike were college buddies. All they did together was get drunk on the weekends. When Joe decided to make some life changes and quit drinking, he and Mike didn’t have too much in common anymore. As a result, of their shared interest dissolving, so did their friendship. This occurrence happens all the time in different scenarios- so make sure you don’t confuse the friends that are for what you are for, as the friends that are for you. 4. People that are there just for you. My favorite category- let me tell you though, these type of people are far and few. We live in a world that is so self-absorbed so it’s hard to find many of these types of friends. If you find two or three in your entire life, you are beyond blessed. These types of people are more than an associate to you, they don’t just want what you have, and they are not always there for the vision- they are solely there for you. They are there for who you are as a person and truly enjoy your company. If you lost everything you had and could not offer anything, they would be there for you. These are the type of friends that are there when you go through heartbreaks, sickness, homelessness, poverty, depression, loss of a loved one, and everything else. You can’t buy these types of friends, you cannot develop these friends, and you cannot decide for someone to become this type of friend. This has to be a motive from their heart and you are not in control of that. When this type of friend comes into your life, cherish them, weather the storms, appreciate them, and do all you can to nurture that friendship. The bible describes this type of friend in Proverbs 17:17“A friend loves at all times, and is born, as is a brother, for adversity.” The good news is we can all have at least 1 friend that is for us at all times and His name is Jesus! Even the friends that are for you can fail you, but Jesus will never fail you, he will stick it out through the thick and thin in our lives. He will also be there to build us up and encourage us to be better than we thought we could ever be. Jesus has truly done this for me in my life and I know he can do this for you. Allow Jesus to be your friend today. For he says to us in John 15:15 “No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you.” There are friends that come into our lives for different motives, seasons, and reasons in our life, but there is one friend who passes all the test of time, His name is Jesus, let him be your friend today!