Published on November 29th, 2012 | by Nathaniel1
Suffering from the Eeyore Complex?
Do you know someone who seems to be in a perpetual state of struggles? Whether in their finances, personal life, or career, they always seem to be operating at a loss or at least a “perceived loss”? Talking with them sometimes sucks your energy, right? Don’t get me wrong, we all have our “Eeyore Moments” but this type of person seems to have an “Eeyore life”. They’re always letting you know that you don’t know what they’re going through or you don’t know how hard things are for them. One day they’re talking about the bills and the next day they’re talking about the stress at work.
I know someone like this and what I’ve realized is that this person has been operating with a “Eeyore complex” for so long that they‘re oblivious to the fact that they’re always talking about their hardships. They’ve conditioned their mind to only focus on the struggles that it only seems natural to talk about what they don’t have. And it’s funny because this person, despite the odds against them, is blessed to be surrounded by loving and caring people.
When we operate with a deficit mindset, we become self-loathing, greedy, and bitter Eeyores. We culture our eyes to only see the heartaches and struggles rather than the blessings and the favor. Psalms 23:7 says “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Are you a deficit?
You will never have what you think is enough money, enough respect at work, or enough satisfaction in your relationships if you’re always focused on your struggles. Everyone has struggles that are significant to them so when we exalt our struggles over those of others, we push our minds into a spiral of “my life is so much harder,” “nothing good ever happens to me,” and “they could never understand what I go through.” But when we shift our mindset to an “abundance mindset,” we become empathetic, generous, and not attached to what we have. If we look at our life hard enough, we’ll see how much favor we have, how God is working in the midst of our struggle, and how truly blessed we are. I think the people that enjoy life are the people that are the most generous- the people that are always sharing the resources- whether it’s a meal, their time, or even a smile. If no one has ever told you this, I want to let you know you are abundantly blessed. What will you share today?
Matthew 6:31-33 “So don’t worry about these things saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”