Published on March 8th, 2013 | by djprophetic0
How do I forgive myself?
How do I forgive myself?
I make a lot of mistakes, we all do. Mistakes are the nature of humanity. If you are not making mistakes you are not growing. Sounds harsh but its true. When you first learned to walk you probably weren’t that good, same with learning how to ride a bike, oh better yet how about your first relationship. You probably made a lot of mistakes in all these areas and plenty of other areas of your life. These mistakes are easy to push past but what about the things that have drastic effects on your life, these can be very hard to get past like getting a DUI, failing an admissions test, cheating on your loved one, having an abortion, or missing out on a once in a lifetime opportunity.
Well I can’t speak for you, but I have done some pretty stupid and foolish things in my lifetime. But what I’ve realized is that I have to forgive myself for each mistake and failure or else I will stunt my growth. Let me give you an example that happened to me this week. I had a business opportunity that presented itself about a month ago and I was procrastinating on doing the necessary requirements to pursue this endeavor until last week. So all last week up till this week I was working on getting all the required documents they needed in order for me to have a chance at this opportunity. So I completed all the necessary paper work and I was ready to turn it in and the link to the opportunity expired! I was very upset and downtrodden and being the persistent person I am I decided to call their office four times, leave two voice-mails, and send them two emails only to realize that someone already capitalized on that opportunity. As devastated as I was, I wasn’t mad at God, I wasn’t mad at the organization, I was mad at myself and if I could have taken a break from me at that moment I would have. The truth is I have to deal with me for the rest of my life. So I decided to forgive myself for the terrible mistake I made and move on. It wasn’t easy but it was necessary. You may not have experienced what I experienced but you may have made mistakes and you are holding onto the hurt of regret and you are angry with yourself for doing this or not doing that. Every thing that happens to you, you’re responsible for so you might as well take the responsibility of forgiving yourself. Don’t feel guilty, don’t be depressed, what happened has past and you have to maintain the things you can control and leave the things you cannot control to God. Your mistakes, failures, and sins don’t hurt God as much as it hurts you. Your sins hurt God because it hurts Him to see his children suffer from the pain of their sins. Forgiveness is a gift from God to you so that you don’t have to be condemned, guilty, or ashamed. Don’t hide your mistakes expose yourself to God for He says in 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Do yourself a favor today and forgive you because if you don’t who will do it for you?