Published on June 18th, 2013 | by Mannie Ramos0
Seeking A Mentor Is A Sign of Wisdom Not Weakness
How many of you feel that it’s a sign of weakness to ask for help? I am going to challenge that opinion and say that is actually a sign of wisdom. We have all been in that car with someone too proud to ask for directions when they are lost in the woods. We look at this as one isolated incident but most likely this same person is too proud to ask for help in life.
Asking for help is actually a sign of wisdom. We tend to get off track in life and when we do, there is nothing like receiving great advice. I think one relationship that can challenge us to strive for excellence and keep us on that path is having the guidance of a mentor. Mentors are people who can help us stay motivated by pushing us to be better in every situation. It’s not that we beg for their approval or seek their validation but they challenge us through action. A strong mentor will also gain just as much from the relationship as the protégé. The mentor will have to be able to lead by example.
Here are a few things to look for in a mentor:
A major characteristic I look for is someone who I respect first and foremost. The best way to gain respect is to earn it and that is where the challenge comes into play in this relationship. We do not want to envy or try to copy this person; we need to rather learn to respect what they have to offer. I believe that having a mentor can provide great insight on questions you might have about your life. A sign of a great mentor is someone who helps us grow and develop into great leaders ourselves.
Last but not least, do you share the same faith? I think that if you are a believer and you are being mentored by a non-believer who believes that they achieved everything on their own, it’s doomed to fail. I am not saying that have to mention The Lord’s name every moment, but they have to believe that something is bigger than him or herself. If we have great visions and think it’s only hard work that will help us achieve them, then maybe our visions are smaller than we think. A mentor should take the time to help us progress because it’s only going to help our faith grow stronger.
We can see the mentor and protégée theme all throughout the Scriptures and realize that deep down inside, each mentor pushed the faith of their predecessor. Just like Moses’ faith pushed Joshua to become a better man with the help of God, I believe a mentor can do the same for you. I urge you when thinking you can do this on your own or thinking you know it all to challenge yourself to look for help.
“Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning.”