Published on October 5th, 2013 | by Mannie Ramos0
Why Are Sensitive Men Shun In Society?
How many of you men out there are “closet Drake fans”? I see all these funny memes out there in lieu of his latest album. “Drake is the type dude to cook his friends breakfast in bed…” While very funny, it makes me wonder- why is it a sign of weakness for a man to show his sensitive side? I think about this question because I love to show my sensitive when I can. Please note: I’m not saying this just to get dates or women intrigued in getting to know me.
I knew I was different when it came to showing my feelings. I come from a rough neighborhood where showing your soft side might get you beat up, but deep down, I always wanted to show this side. I was raised by women who in turn are probably some the toughest women I know. I can remember the first movie I cried over. I was about eight years old and I saw the movie, “My Girl”. This movie was so sad and at the time, I didn’t know the movie was all about coping with death as kid. Remember that scene where Vada just wants Thomas Jay to wake up after he dies? I just started balling my eyes out. I told a friend about this next day at school- he just made fun of me so bad. I guess that’s when I told myself I would just hide that sensitive side. As I grew up, I always noticed that the tough guys got the girl. For a while, I even tried to play the tough guy, but I realized that wasn’t in me. I admit, I would have a one-night stand and genuinely feel bad for the woman. I would want to look them up on Facebook and apologize, but then I just realized, it would be throwing salt on the wound. As I got older, I realized to that I didn’t want to have to conform for a woman. I am a man who loves chick flicks and nice views. I’m sure there is a girl who digs that kinda guy.
I can honestly say, looking back, when I’m vulnerable to feeling and emotion is when I am at my strongest. I make connections with new friends and old ones that can’t be broken by a facade of tough-guy antics. I urge you, if you are the “Drake” in your crew, don’t conform because one day, it might make you a Grammy award-winning artist.