Published on May 21st, 2014 | by djprophetic0
5 Reasons Why You Should Never Complain!
Isn’t it easier to find what’s wrong with something or someone than it is to find what’s right? It doesn’t take much effort; it’s kind of like NOT going to the gym. If you don’t go to the gym to work out, it’s easy to sit there doing nothing to improve.
However, when you start going to the gym, it gets tough to motivate yourself to keep going until you have built the habit. Here are five reasons that will change the way you look at complaining:
1. It Causes You to Focus on Problems instead of Solutions.
I know this is an article about not complaining, but I have one complaint. I can’t tell you how much I HATE complaining!
There aren’t many things that aggravate me like complaining does. Just like my Father, God, complaining is something I absolutely abhor because it focuses on the negative instead of the positive. Why do so many people do it?
Roy F. Baumeister a professor of social psychology at Florida State University did some research on the subject and explained it like this,
“Bad emotions, bad parents and bad feedback have more impact than good ones. Bad impressions and bad stereotypes are quicker to form and more resistant to disconfirmation than good ones.”
Les Brown, motivational speaker also explained that it takes 16 positive affirmations to overcome one negative comment.
Have you ever met someone who complained about problems but never did anything to change them?
These type of people seldom do anything of great value because they are not looking for the solution; they are enticed by the allure of complaining. I like what writer, James Green said,
“When it comes down to it, pessimists don’t start companies- optimists do.” Do you want to be great?
Do you want to excel? Become a solution-focused person and let others focus on the problems.
2. What You Don’t Appreciate Now, you won’t appreciate later.
If a person is complaining right now about the things they don’t have at the moment, there is a good chance that when they get more later they will complain about that too.
The Law of Paradoxical Intention says, “You must have goals, but your happiness cannot be tied to those goals. You must be happy first before you reach your goals.”
This means you have to be content with where you are right now, yes right now! Do you wish you had more money, a better car, a better house, or a better spouse?
It’s ok to desire to become better and have enhancements in your life but its not okay to complain about what you do have. I like what the apostle paul said in Phillipians 4:11-12
“Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. 12 I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little.”
The apostle paul had horrible things happen to him, like being shipwrecked, being beaten, multiple near death experiences, and other terrible situations yet he remained content and grateful whether he had little or much.
Some of us need to stop reading right now and ask God to forgive us for being complainers and complaining about all the things that aren’t going right, and start focusing on the things that are right.
In that same verse paul teaches us the secret he’s referring to earlier in the chapter: Phillipians 4: 8
“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
Remember that being a complainer magnifies what you don’t have and minimizes what you do have. So do everything in your power to refrain from complaining!
3. Nobody wants to be around a complainer
Complaining seems natural and normal in this world but at the end of the day nobody wants to be around a complainer.
In fact I can guarantee you the person you enjoy being around the most is an optimist.
The clerk you enjoy the most at the grocery store is an optimist, the waiter/waitress you enjoy being served by is an optimist. The people God used the most in the bible were optimist! Take a look at Numbers 11:1-2
“Now the people complained about their troubles in the hearing of the Lord. When the Lord heard it, His anger burned. The fire of the Lord burned among them, and destroyed some around the outer parts of the tents. 2 Then the people cried to Moses and he prayed to the Lord, and the fire went out.”
The people of Israel were complaining to God about so many things and God get angry and destroyed some of their tents. (I can picture God saying SHUT UP!).
In a multitude of complainers there was an optimistic man God used named Moses, Moses prayed and God heard his prayer and changed the situation of the Israelites on behalf of Moses the optimist.
I want to note there’s a difference between stating a fact and making a complaint, its the attitude behind it. Moses and the Israelites saw the same challenges yet Moses had an attitude of problem solving and the Israelites were problem focused. Declare today!
I am an optimist! I am problem solver! I see the good in every situation, person, and problem!
4. The More You Complain the More you will have to complain about.
Complaining is like an itch, once you start itching is hard to stop itching.
Don’t get me wrong I have to remind myself not to complain all the time, because there is always an opportunity to complain about something.
We live in an imperfect world, but we must find the perfections within every imperfection, the beauty in the beast.
Did you know that studies have proven complaining can be severely damaging to your health, productivity, life and relationships? According to MindBridge,
“People who complain on a consistent basis are inclined to have poor health, tend not to do well in their jobs and have relationships that are less satisfying and shorter lasting.”
Complaining isn’t something that we just happen to fall into, we learn it and develop the habit just like we learn the habit of brushing our teeth. People also complain because they find it is a good conversation starter and it brings a common ground.
“This weather is just terrible!” “The service here is horrible!” (I know I have been guilty of doing this..).The sad part is most people who complain don’t even realize they are complainers because they have been doing it all their lives and it is an ingrained habit they either learned from their family or friends.
Action Item: Ask a friend or family member to be honest and ask them if you complain a lot.
What complaining does is it reinforces your thoughts, and we know that, as a man thinketh so is he. Your thoughts become the things you see, so if you’re constantly complaining change your thoughts and you will change your life.
5. Complaining shows that you don’t trust God.
James 5:9 says “Don’t grumble against one another, brothers and sisters, or you will be judged. The Judge is standing at the door!”
Phillipians 2:14 “Do everything without complaining or arguing” and Ephesians 4:29 says “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
I believe it is safe to say God HATES complaining!
Why? Complaining is a sign of distrust and shows that you do not believe things will get better, it shows that you have allowed your present obstacle to become a wall instead of a door.
One of my all time favorite quotes is :
“A stumbling block to the pessimist is a stepping-stone to the optimist.” by Eleanor Roosevelt.
Complaining distorts the picture in front of you, instead of seeing the masterpiece you see the smudge, instead of the flash light you see the darkness. God is saying trust him to give you the whole picture and to bring you out of the dark into the light.
Don’t let a circumstance, person, or obstacle become bigger in your mind then God is. God wants us to trust him with all our hearts, and the problem with complaining is that its based out of fear, doubt and insecurity.
Trust God today and refuse to be a complainer by starting today!!!
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1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
16 Always be joyful. 17 Never stop praying. 18 Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.
These are just 5 Reasons Why You Should Never Complain, there are plenty more…Post one below that I missed!